Some of my friends have already spent their 20th birthday but they have not got a date yet. They are eager for a date but they have few male friends, let along a Mr. Right. Generally, they prefer to stay indoors and play computer games or watching TV shows. Or perhaps they do have male friends but these males are already in their friend-zone. I feel so pity for them and I am trying to figure out why.
Recently, I have learned a theory called practice at intimacy pathway. It means that in order to have a date one needs to go through the following steps:
Step 1:having a same-sex cliques( small group)
Step 2:having a mixed-sex cliques
Step 3: Dating
Many of my female friends got stuck in step 1 because they never hang out males. Without exposure to the opposite sex, it is impossible to find a date( this only applies to heterosexual female). Even if the male you hang out with is not your type, you can know more males from them and you will gradually understand things from a male perspective, or at least know that male like and what they dislike.
In sum, if you are still an amateur in dating, try to hang out with a group of people with both female and male .